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Get the "But" Out of Your "Yes"
A CEO Program for optimum business communication
 Would you just eat hamburgers and nothing else month after month? Or wear the same underwear day after day? Of course not. That is just stupid. So why would you keep thinking the same thoughts, not just for days, or months, but for years.
Internal voices need to be changed just like you do with dinner menus and clothes. That's smart.
Where do these inner voices and tapes come from? First, the strongest and most lasting ones come from our parents or caretakers. They sound like the 'shoulds' and 'ought to' of the day. Who says you should? Who made it the law? Should you or do you want to? Talk back to that voice. Challenge it. You are stronger and more mature. You don't have to listen if it doesn't work for you. Then there are the inner voices that are echoes of friends, neighbors, T.V., magazines or newspapers. They come in sound bytes, at record speed in our information culture. We see the turmoil in the world almost the instant it happens and we nod as someone comments how awful "it" is. Just getting through a day of listening to the buzz in our world of "it" being so bad can get us to lock our doors and pull the covers over our heads wanting to block out the whole mess. Did you ever stop and really consider the "it" we all talk about? We may not be able to change the world out there, but we sure do have the opportunity to change the world inside. So, how hard is it to change? Click to Read More... |
On The Move
Bernadette DeBias, graduate of Total Leadership Connections™ has taken a great job with the U.S. Department of Labor. She acknowledges the great learning in TLC to help move her in this new direction. Bernie is the Workforce Development Specialist with the Employment and Training Division of the United States Department of Labor. Bernie recently moved from Northeast Pennsylvania and is based in Philadelphia. She will be working on special projects in Pennsylvania, Virginia, Maryland, Delaware, West Virginia and Washington, D.C. and hopes to bring the learning from TLC about collaboration and creativity to her new environment. Congrats to Bernie on this excellent move! |  |
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Congratulations to members of Total Leadership Connections™ Class # 21. We have completed another session of TLC and the graduates are out in the world making a difference! Watch for their video testimonials on the new website, www.totalleadershipconnections.com and if you haven't visited the site yet, check it out! |
Team Challenge Course
Give your employees a jump start in the communication & collaboration areas
Spend a day at the Country Place Retreat & Conference Center in a fun filled, experiential program led by Rick Yarborough, an experienced ropes course facilitator. For more information, email rick@retreatpa.com or click HERE. |  |
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  | Never Enough
 The June 2006 issue of Harvard Business Review offers an excellent article about the up and down sides of the pattern of overachievement. [Leadership Run Amok: The Destructive Potential of Overachievers]
For many, as the HBR article discusses, achievement creates a natural high and yet, while profits can increase through the drive to be the best, often "talented leaders crash and burn as they put even more pressure on their employees and themselves to produce."
Good advice is given on how to adopt new behaviors such as asking open ended questions, limit comments and not jump to conclusions. Yet, unless core issues are discovered, often the pattern will continue to play out in different ways.
Instead of staying late at the office the leader trains for a marathon, or spends all the newly freed up time becoming a master chef or coaching the little league team to be the champions.
At what point is the super achiever locked into an addiction of never enough? Our culture values achievement. Yet, have you ever stopped to consider the source of that need to be the best, often at the cost of relationships or health? The Buddhist philosophy has a name for this continued striving. It is called "feeding the hungry ghost".
Are you someone who requires the word "super" in your name? Are you working with a super achiever boss who wants everyone to follow his/her lead? Is there a "hungry ghost" demanding to be fed living in your psyche? Do you ever wonder who you are really pleasing? And, more importantly, why?
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